Divorce

My mind was set. The displeasing end to a marriage wasn’t so displeasing after all. This acceptance of divorce without a hint of disdain came about because of two logical reasons I had discovered. The common misconception that divorce affects half of all marriage unions is running rampant through America. The facts disagree; divorce has actually been on a decline since a sudden spike in the 70’s when no-fault divorce was legalized through many states. This new avenue allowed abused or neglected spouses to file divorce without having to have a misogynistic judge rule that the husband acted out of line. The second phrase running through American minds is “Divorce ruins good marriages.” I find this to be highly contradictory as I have never known a good marriage to be destroyed by divorce. I have, however, heard of unhappy, abusive, or incompatible couples being separated by an institution that allows both parties further happiness. In a world where a woman or a man may succeed to the highest degree is possible, remaining married in an unhappy situation is no longer necessary in America. A little over a month ago my closest friend’s parents separated. They began dividing up assets as divorce loomed as the inevitable solution. The tears shed because of the uncertainty, lies, and hatred have pained me to watch. My friend and her sister did not deserve anything but the best. I spent the ten minute drive to her house screaming through the radio and the pitter-patter of the rain. I was furious at how anyone could put their own children through such a horrendous situation. At that moment divorce was evil and inhumane. Couples should be forced to work it out like they have done for millennia. My goal today is not to convince you to accept divorce or hate it, but I would like you to know that there is a confusing mix of information when looking at divorce. Remember to examine all the facts carefully before making your decision but most importantly understand the people more. Just a thought.